I am so occupied these few days at work, totally not replying to messages often, having a lot of missed calls and some email spams etc. I am just so so so drained and so tired. Been coaching my students at work and I am so stressed out, though I am not the one taking exams!!
Seeing the way they study at such a tender age is so heart-breaking. I only remembered studying that hard in 0-levels when I was still clad in my school uniform, and maybe sort of got forced to study by my mum in primary school, in which she slowly let me go during pri 5/6.
In this competitive society in Singapore, however, it is a must to do well. Otherwise you can't get into a good secondary school and get results which are utterly depressing which ultimately lead to lousy 0-level results. Having bad results would means wasting more time and money to achieve the same result that others took a shorter time to get. Losing in paper-chase, would mean that you can't really survive that well in the society. Maybe that's why parents get more worried and would want the kids to do well.
However, which is more important? Paper or feelings? How would kids or at least how I feel when I was at their age? I had a lot of tuition and my mum was not working at that time because the three of us was still too young to be left alone. Therefore, my mum stressed on getting a good grade, at least a band 1/2. I remember spending nights after nights memorizing eng dict and doing assessment papers, and having to get up early to catch the school bus at 630am. playground was only available from 5pm-7pm, other than that is tuition and studies. TV are only for Saturdays. I was wondering why other kids can just play whole day while I have to continue studying. Whenever I don't do well, I will get punishment. even if I did well, it's just a pat and that's it. nothing else.
For now, looking at my kids, I hope that they will be happy. Having 90+ and above for their exams would be fine with me already. Even if they can't meet their target, as long as they did their best, and they stay true to themselves, I'm fine with it. I just hope that their character would be strong enough to handle every obstacles that they met on their way. Because I don't see the point in having lousy character with good results. Values, that are so insignificant in this society nowadays, I hope the kids don't lose it while paperchasing.
“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. " -Mark 10:14
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