Learning to accept change

http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/learning-to-accept-change/
Came across this when I was exploring my macbook and realised that I've saved it somewhere in my bookmark bar few months ago.. And since I'm home on a Friday night with no plans (forever have plans on every other day except for Friday!) I've decided to just read it...

But I've been stuck there for the past 1-2 hours, reading and reading all the posts, from "why mens are not men enough nowadays" to "rejections" etc... and lastly, learning to accept change.

I'm a person who hate changes. Unless necessary, I won't ever change. I like the daily routine stuff, like eating the same flavour of potato chips and pledging my utmost loyalty to that particular brand/flavour etc. 

But.... people change, feelings change, environment change. And we either have to go with the flow, or get stuck and not being able to communicate effectively. And to be honest, looking at my life right now, I've never expected to be where I am right now. I used to envision celebrating my 4th year anniversary, staying over, spending my friday night with him, watching a movie, studying together in university, I might not even join student council. But now all I'm left with is working during the holidays, spending my Friday nights on good reads or texting my friends and settling church stuffs. Dating other guys was never on my mind.... :)

However, I need the change. Without the change, I would be constantly living in fear and insecurity. Without change, I won't be able to meet better guys who would treat me better. Without the change, I won't be who I am today. I would give up on being myself and being what he wanted me to be, which is utterly dreadful. Why would I want to end up with a guy, who would be so self-centered and egoistic instead of being with a guy who would take good care of my feelings and needs, who is God fearing and God loving accept my flaws and love me for who I am, and making me want to pursue God even more?

One of the lesson learnt today:
People that are in bad relationships probably need change the most, but are too scared to move on or be alone for a while in fear of never finding the right person. This is a crazy and unhealthy thought process. Trying to make something work when you’ve mentally checked out is the worst waste of time. To stick around because it’s all you know or because you don’t want something you’ve invested time in to fail is a failure in itself. If something isn’t benefiting you, it’s hurting you. What people don’t realize is that failure is good because it’s the only way we can achieve success.