Too nice?
Being too nice = taken advantage of.
when I was young, mum told me to treat people as nice as possible. This is because when you treat people nicely, they will treat you that nicely too. Even if that person don't treat you as nice as how you treated them, it's fine too, so long as it is not that often.
But in this world that we are living in? Is it really that pure? Maybe a few months ago, I believe. But now, it's abit impossible already. When you are too nice, people will tend to take you granted, and then they start to walk all over you... that is till they walked out of your life.
Daddy told me that they taught me too well that I become too soft hearted and too nice to people, and he started telling me that there are times when people will just take advantage of me and seriously, they won't ever feel sorry that they do such things. I sort of understand where he is coming from, because he doesn't want me to get hurt, and at the same time protecting myself.
Being too nice also means "对不起-ing" myself. It means, putting other people needs first before my own. which is what always happens to me. Recently at work too.... just thinking about it makes my blood boils. No wonder people say: " 好心没好报" super true ttm pls! Just because I'm being too nice and soft hearted, doesn't give other people the right to shrink their own responsibilities and take advantage of me in a way.
I also don't know why am I so nice to people, even though I know that they are at fault, I rarely have the heart to tick them off. Not because I can't be bothered, but I don't know how to be tactful about it. It's super hard to bring your own point across without hurting other people's feelings. Whenever I thought of how sad they could be, I sort of just keep quiet about it, and praying that I would just forget about it. I need God's wisdom on that.
Until today, when I see my kids on the "danger zone" did I get so mad. It hurts me seeing my kids in danger and there was no assistance/late arrival. In the end, ALL got scolded by me. I seriously don't like such situations, and lucky no one was hurt, except unhappiness I guess. But seriously, I don't care as long as my kids are safe.
Then where is the distinction between too nice and just nice?
